One of the hardest things to do in life is to say what you mean and mean what you say. People often talk about what they’d love to be, do, and have.

Unfortunately, most of us just talk about what we want.  But a few actually do what it takes to create the life they want.

What is it that is so difficult to fulfill some of the promises that we not only tell ourselves but also make to our friends and family?

Here are some of the things I have personally done to get rid of this problem over a period of time. I must admit, this is a painstakingly slow process and it takes discipline and consistency to make progress – I am still work in progress

1. Under promise BUT over deliver – in my experience, its always best to set expectations to a certain agreeable level for both parties. When that is agreed upon, then work towards over achieving your promise to give an element of surprise.
2. Set clear goals, SMART goals – SMART is an acronym that stands for Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, and Timely. Therefore, a SMART goal incorporates all of these criteria to help focus your efforts and increase the chances of achieving that goal. Set SMART goals to clarify your ideas, focus your efforts, use your time and resources productively, and achieve what you want in life.
3. Have passion and core beliefs – When you set your goals from a point of passion, its very difficult not do whatever it takes to achieve whatever your mind has set to achieve. Be honest and dig deep into your core beliefs.
4. Make and design self governing rules – Its important that you make rules and commit to be disciplined to follow your own rules. I personally wake up at 5:45am everyday so that I can prepare early enough to get to work at 7:30am although my job starts at 9am
5. Slow down on rash promises – Take time to think about what you are about to commit to, slow down. If its very important that you have to commit to something, I usually recommend that you ask for more time to think about your commit. People will trust you more when you give them your word and commitment and come through with it rather than the other way round.
6. Don’t be afraid to say NO – I think this is the one I truly struggle with to date. I almost have to remind myself everyday that I don’t have to say yes to everything or anyone. This way, when I say NO, I mean what I say and say what I mean. eventually, most people get to trust your word.

I am sure you have a couple of others that have worked for you, feel free to incorporate these tips and behaviours to ensure the success of your life and please leave a comment below – Walk your talk.