I don’t know about you but one of the most irritating downhill habits that all of us have been trapped in is one of “being busy”! We all have been stuck in this trap at some point in our lives and yes, that is exactly what it is, a trap.

It is a trap because this feeling becomes a rationalization for every part of your life. Have you ever had that friend or family member or work colleague that makes you feel as though they are the president of the world and that they absolutely have no time for you except when they want to “confess/show off” to you how busy they are?

I certainly have and I must admit, its super draining and perhaps I have personally also made others feel this way when they are dealing with me – well, it’s a downright bad downhill habit. You hear excuses like – I can’t be with my family or friends, I’m too busy. I don’t have time to work out, read a book, learn a new skill, go have some fun, shut down at night to get to sleep early, take my kids to the park or read my son a lullaby, call my mother and simply ask, how are you mother? and I dare even say make love to my wife … because I’m too busy!

Ok, you get my point and enough of my ranting.

Most of us have used this “too busy” notion or excuse because it just FEELS VERY TRUE. It feels absolutely true that we’re too busy and to be honest, I have no doubt that some of you reading this are genuinely busy BUT my argument here is that you can never be too busy for something or someone you truly care about.

I think it’s a matter of PRIORITISATION. If you don’t have time to have dinner with your wife and kids on the same table because you are working until 11pm in the night EVERYDAY, then I am afraid to let you know that work is your priority rather than your family.

Sometimes in life, it’s about doing the little but consistent little things that don’t even take 60 seconds of your time. Like for example, sending your wife a message every lunchtime, reminding her how much you love her and how much she means the world to you. It seems like such a small and simple gesture, but it does bring that spark and magic in the other parts of your relationship and guess what – it took you 60 seconds!

Have you ever wondered how then does someone like Bill Gates get to do all the things he does in the same 24 hours that we all are allotted? I know what you’re thinking, “he has people who work for him” but I am pretty sure he has a private life that he has to fulfill as a father and husband, etc.

To be honest, I genuinely think life is not as serious and complicated as we try and make it seem and so I want to call to those of us who are always in the “busy mode” to try and develop a habit of not being busy, by being intentional about not being busy even with the same workload.

You will be amazed at the results, all it takes is to practice this consistently for at least 21 days. But before we get to resolve this, let’s first get to the heart of this always-busy habit and understand the inner intricacies, and then reverse it on its head.